Tried that didn't seem to change anything.
It is most likely some weird hardware issue with the game. On my dated work laptop that is far inferior to my gaming PC GalCiv3 loads in and out super fast at all sizes. So it just has to be the current version galciv3 not liking my PC/hardware configs etc. As all other expansions and patches of the game loaded fine.
I can deal with the longer load into the game its annoying but meh. Its just going out of the game to the main menu. The destroying galaxy etc takes 2-3 minutes its faster to alt f4 than it is to go to main menu. Once i am in everything run great its just the in and out. I assume one day i will reinstall or change rigs/hardware and it will fix the issue.