Its because the game you load is never exactly the same game that you saved.
Does this seem odd to anyone else? What a peculiar behavior for the game. It sounds like an AI glitch. If the AI is doesn't record what it is 'thinking' at the point you save, it may come to a different conclusion about what to do than it did before the reload. That is a complete guess, though.
I dunno? My guess is that it is because everything in the game occurs in a particular order, and the order of events as the game progresses is one factor that influences the AI to do what it is doing. When you save and reload, the AI is simply given a pile of stats to assess, the order of events is gone.
This is what i mean.... in my earlier example, the Drengin ships turned away from my area to attack someone else. Its because the order of events was that the declaration of war with that other AI occured at that time after already being at war with me for some time. The order of events influenced the Drengin AI to decide to send its fleets after that other AI.
Then when reloading the game, that order of events influence is lost, the AI is given the raw data of who it is at war with and it reassesses who it wants to focus its attack on.
That's my theory anyway, now idea if true?
In the OP's case, when reloading, the AI is also forced to assess from raw data if it needs to send any diplomatic messages.