(one reason why my auto-save is every other turn, so I can reload prior to such things):
quicksave before pressing turn might save you some time here, yeah I know it's cheesy but we all forget some stuff here and there. (actually the ability to reload is a only-player bonus and that's why I'm universally fine with (hidden) AI bonuses most call "cheating")
which, while nice of them, is *not* one that I wanted & now I'm stuck with it.
honestly, I love such moments. the most boring game is the game that simply goes according to my plan. improvise and make the best out of it.
Nevertheless, I agree, gifts should made refuseable.